Is being in love an actual human need? Or is it just a desire?

I think being in love is only temporary in this Era of life, which is why divorce is on the rise and why the marriage rate is dropping. Would love to hear opinions

Marriage is taken as a casual joke nowadays... reality TV is a great example of that. Being in love... the true concept of that is blown off these days. Those 2 realities break my heart 💔 True love can last... it's a desire that you make a reality once it's there.

People don't want to do the work required to maintain a lasting relationship anymore

💯 Exactly!!! 🤗 Laziness is easier.

A corrupted world we live in. Smh

😢 Yes Sir

When they have endless options at their fingertips, they have far less incentive to stay through the ups *and* downs

💥 You are spot on dear! 💥

I learn from paying attention to the couples around me. Love is hard work. It's a neverending thing that requires a lot of attention and communication. Soooo much goes into it that most would rather quit instead of working things out. This is the era of incredibly short attention spans lol

In this new era, dopamine rules the day, & makes us obsessed with intense pleasure, novelty, etc.

Great points u make

Everyone needs love Kevin . Our enemy satan is out to destroy every person on earth, and our families. He actually hates people .

I agree with u there

Very short, pseudo-relationships--that only last the duration of the honeymoon phase--are becoming the new norm. A big part of the reason people don't have the resolve to "complete their purchase," as it were, is because they don't put much thought into things, or invest time deepening their emotional intimacy before rushing straight to mindless sex acts, etc. It's the former things that lead to lasting commitment, more often than not, & we don't do ourselves any favors bypassing all that for a quick wizz-bang.

I figured it was a need. I just question it sometimes bcuz I've never experienced it

You have never been in love or you never feel someone truly love you?

Never been in love

I see, I hope you will be able to one day 🤞

They say patience is a virtue. I believe everything happens for a reason. Appreciate it tho

Yes, and I agree with that ☺️👍 Just need to be patience and see what the reason at the end of the days or when it happens 😌

For me it's both need and desire, I can live without it but it will make me not that enjoying my life and want to just hurry up to my death time but with having it, it makes me want to live for a bit more time and enjoying the moment 🤔

Well said. Great answer

It's part of the Maslow's hierarchy of needs .. so psychologically .. we do

Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs was based off of a typical un-traumatized, allistic, alloromantic, allosexual, cishet white man's brain. There is no evidence whatsoever that this Heirarchy of Needs fits literally anyone else in the entire world besides that specific type of individual.

I dont think love is temporary, infatuation is. I think theres a high rise of divorce is just that people don't wanna try anymore or they just felt hey just had to stay in the relationship. Ik my mom felt she had to stay with my dad just because they had me in high school n were forced to be married since my mom was raise in a catholic house. I guess just a lot of people rather quit than work things out?

Do you ever see two older people in the park and think..... I wonder how long they've been in love? The reason why love may not feel as necessary as before is because people, decieve or pick the wrong people and choose to waste years of their life on a mistake. One day they just stop trying. Do you think someone who spent years in true love with a spouse wouldn't lose their breath at the idea of suddenly losing them? Do you think a mother would part with her child? Do you think a friend wouldn't fall down to their knees in tears at the idea of a best friend of many years dying? Nobody realizes how much they need someone until they are gone. As for people who have never formed a real meaningful connection, just thought they did. There is no sense of urgency for them as long they have a screen in their face. Consider them damned souls to walk the ether of nothingness 😆😆😆

Way to break it down. Very detailed explanation lol

The real question is what happens that makes that desire a need? Is it a truely deep connection with that other person? The "want" to have them around becomes i "need" that person around.. or is a need only the basics of food and water and all else is a mental thing where we fool ourselves to making the desire a need. And with this i hurt my head

As my buddy Rick once said, "I hate to break it to you, but what people call "love" is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed. It hits hard Morty then it slowly fades leaving you stranded in a failing marriage. I did it. Your parents are going to do it. Break the cycle Morty, rise above, focus on science."

Great question. Both. Actually

Well, romantic love is a need to some people, but to people who are aromantic, they experience little to no romantic attraction. Sexual love, asexuals experience little to no sexual attraction. And even then, these people may want some sexual/romantic interaction, even if they don't feel the attraction. Familial love is not always unconditional. Platonic love is not a need, because even though humans are mostly social creatures, introverts exist. Hermits exist. People who genuinely don't want any human interaction exist. So it isn't really a matter of people as a whole. Every experience is individual, so we can't label love, in its many forms, as a need or a want, because the answer will vary from person to person.

I would say more than a desire than a need. However, before you can love someone else you should know how to love yourself. I think that like anything else live take consistency and work for it to be successful sometimes people bail out when it starts to get challenging.

yes, it definitely is. the love of your parents, neighbors, and mate, yes. the way you love your children informs the way they will love their children. the way your parents treated each other informs the way you will treat your significant other. these will go on to affect your relationships with your neighbors and your place in society. that being said, dating and romance is completely absurd. i believe we as a modern society can do without that nonsensical and inorganic rigamarole