My thoughts on MBTI compatibility.

I think many of us here are fans of MBTI, seeing that it is a core component of this app, but what does it actually mean for a relationship? Why wouldn't someone Blue always be preferable over someone Yellow or Red? Why can relationships in the yellow still succeed? Is a good or bad MBTI relationship compatibility destiny? The answer might seem obvious, but the details hazy. Of course MBTI is not the be-all end-all of relationships. But it is important. Well almost every aspect of MBTI relates to how you interact with others interpersonally and your social tendencies. But while it may relate to your values, it doesn't actually define them. Ultimately the most important factor to relationship success is shared values and care for meeting each other's needs. Every serious relationship has 3 needs, a need for friendship, (sexual*) attraction, and longtime partnership. Everyone has these 3 needs, but your values affect how you meet those needs, and your MBTI personality type determines how you communicate those values and needs. If you can meet each other's needs you will work out short term, but without meeting each other's values you will fail long term. If you can't even meet their needs, even if your values match it won't work. Finding someone you communicate well with is the easiest way to discover someone's values quickly and to communicate and understand each other's needs more intuitively. You can still understand someone's needs and values in the yellow. It might just come less intuitively and require more effort. But your capability to match on values is just as equal as any MBTI type. It just takes more effort to communicate and understand each other's values since you don't share a compatible communication style. For people who value easy communication, trying to get together with someone in the red can be an incompatibility in and of itself. But as was the case throughout history when we had less freedom of choice in relationships. You can still make things work through compromise and diligence even with someone in the red so long as you do share some values, even if communication isn't perfect. This is why many old fashioned arranged marriages could still be successful. It's just harder to feel satisfied with nowadays. And that's okay. We have apps like Boo to help us find compatible people :)

Kenyatta

3 months ago

INTJ

Scorpio

5w4

5 4

I agree with this sentiment, but I don’t think the type suggestions match their compatibility levels. For example, ENTJ should join INTJ be in the yellow for my type. INTP’s have 0 functions in common with either of them. Therefore it takes considerably more effort to bridge gaps in understanding. But we tend to value similar things are Intuitive Thinkers. That would be a perfect example of yellow. Bad communication in terms of perpetual disagreements, but plenty of common interests. It easy enough to start a spark between us, but just as easy for that spark to fizzle out. I sincerely believe that your input here, & a little reconfiguring of the compatibility suggestions (based on functions > preferences) would boost this app’s success rate.

Yeah I agree with you

Chris

3 months ago

ENTJ

Gemini

5w6

5 6

Lately I've been checking out possible MBTI compabality but seeing if they are open minded or goal focused is important to me as well. So I know I can get along with them in the long term, I'm pretty open minded so I try to give everyone a fair chance regardless

Sybelle

3 months ago

ENFJ

Virgo

1w9

1 9

I usually go by astrology, because observing people it is very accurate and there as well the core personality types are present. However there are always variables and in astrology that will be considering the entire birth chart as well as not just using the western zodiac but the Chinese as well and preferably adding the ayurvedic constitution. But to answer your question I think this system is pretty accurate as well and although not deep enough it will show you that there are many too obvious differences that COULD cause issues, if you are into making it work, compromise and such, then that could work for you. (you, generally spoken) However people who'd rather just meet a good match with the least possibility of issues probably should consider that system.... But we still need to consider the fact that we need people to balance us, we usually crave the things we lack to complete us, so often too much similarity isn't necessary a good thing... (in personality traits) not sure if this system calculates that...

I have noticed that I tend to get along with greens but not reds. Yellow is more variable. But the system is certainly not perfect.

Sounds like you kinda talked yourself into the answer your looking for? Just cause some are in red dosent mean they're off the table, opposites do attract, if y'all were exactly the same in a relationship would get boring in my opinion get stale and end the relationship right there

Great post! Lots of great tidbits of inspiration.