Jie

3 months ago

INFJ

Gemini

1w9

1 9

How do you react to ghosting?

He left a sweet message a week before Valentine's day, and I greeted him on Vday, but until now he has not texted me. What it is? Why it hurts? And what you can do about it?

I'd reach out to him and see what's up just in case there's some good explanation but if not then Id say it's time to move on.

Jie

3 months ago

INFJ

Gemini

1w9

1 9

Really? Should I try? I'm thinking of unmatch him, If he found someone else here. So it didn't bother me everytime I see his face on my inbox.☺️

You never know what someone's actually going through unless you ask. But in the end its your decision to make.

Jie

3 months ago

INFJ

Gemini

1w9

1 9

Yeah, I'm shy. But I'll try. Thank you. ☺️

It's just how some people are when they don't desire any more communication. Maybe I wasn't engaging or interesting enough, maybe they found someone else more interesting, maybe just busy and don't have time to make deeper connections. And that's okay. We can't all make connections with everyone in the world. We can't force them and if they ghosted, it most likely wouldn't had worked out in the future anyways, and that's okay too.

Jie

3 months ago

INFJ

Gemini

1w9

1 9

So his word like "if you have a problem, I'm here just drop me a message" "I'll support you in everything" IT'S ALL LIES Everytime I see his face on my inbox, I missed the one who have sweet voice messages. Should I unmatched him? 😌

Hmm, people can change. Or maybe that's how he always was. Idk how long you guys talked for. You shouldn't worry too much about stuff you can't control, it only stresses you out more. Worry about the stuff you can control, like moving on and finding someone else that potentially, might not ghost you. But always keep your expectations low. Doesn't mean don't put effort, just expect the worst as well.

Jie

3 months ago

INFJ

Gemini

1w9

1 9

Yes Thank you for the advice. I make time for self-care, eat right, sleep right, stay physically active and talk other people here. 😌

Ghosting hurts me, like a lot, it's strange to me I guess I hate the whole unfinished vibe. You could at least tell me what's wrong with me first, you know?

Jie

3 months ago

INFJ

Gemini

1w9

1 9

Yeah, the fact that I invested time for him, like you know set aside my chores and we go to bed late. I laughed, smile. He's sending voice messages. That's how unique he is. Ang now what? He's gone, do I have to ask "why" is anything wrong with me or he found someone else here.

It doesn't necessarily mean there's anything wrong with you, there's loads of possible reasons and it hurts not to know why, wondering is painful. It could be the wrong time in your lives for example

Chris

3 months ago

ENTJ

Gemini

5w6

5 6

Ghosting has become a lot more common lately for better or worse but it gives you a better idea if they are interested in you or not, hope that helps

Ashley

3 months ago

INFP

Virgo

2w1

2 1

Someone I considered a close friend decided one day during quarantine that she wanted nothing to do with me anymore. When we saw each other for the first time since quarantine began, I wanted to say hi to her, but she appeared very standoffish and unapproachable. Back when we were closer, she was very affectionate and friendly to me, but after I left our mutual activity, we didn’t see each other much, and I accepted that, but still hoped we could stay friends. Even before quarantine I knew that we weren’t as close as we once had been, but at least we still said hi to each other. But now she was looking at me like I was trash! I felt hurt and confused for a long time, wondering if I had done something to her that I wasn’t aware of, wanting to be brave enough to reach out to her and ask what was wrong, wanting her attention so badly but always wimping out during the few chances I got. And then one day, it happened. She talked to me again. But that day was the last time we would ever speak. A few days later, I saw her at the same place while I was with one of our mutual “friends”, and she ignored both of us. From our conversation a few days before, I knew that she still knows who I am and can still recognize my face behind a mask, AND that she knows our mutual friend, because she mentioned seeing her that day that we talked as well. This is the only time that I’ve been “ghosted”, but it really hurt.

I think it's really annoying because there's nothing to learn so everyone involved wastes their time. Would be nice if we could be adults and talk to people about why something isn't working. Then again, I totally understand it being used out of safety concerns. I just wish it wasn't the default.

Joshua

3 months ago

INTJ

Scorpio

5w4

5 4

I recently ghosted someone. But I did it because they were really creeping me out and didn't seem to care how they were making me feel.