The best way to get over someone else is to fall in love with yourself

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It is to my understanding that breakups are hard to deal with because the body and mind go through withdrawal, like drug addiction - we become addicted to love.

Sure, we put our interests on a pedestal. I think it's hurtful to rely on that level of validation from someone else, it's so dangerous.

Thats a great way of putting it. Going through it right now myself. This time was interesting because it was only a month long exciting fling before i was suddenly rejected. Feeling the high of the intamacy and constant company to the sudden withdrawal of loneliness really does feel like a drug.

Must be that Oxytocin

That's exactly it

There's also the companionship and routines that get interrupted. There's an energetic structure that gets broken and it's no different than if a physical structure is broken. There's a repair process, i.e. grieving, that's necessary.

Yes, I think there are a lot of feel-good brain chemicals involved in love that overlap with the brain chemicals that react to alcohol, drugs, and other potentially addictive things like eating, shopping, or gambling. This definitely makes it harder for some people to deal with breakups, myself included.

Now... how do I get over myself???

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Bruhhhh... I'm in that 'dissociate her memories from the things I used do to with'..... feels weird cause I miss that extra boost of serotonin and dopamine when her name pops in my notifications, time to bing Bojack Horseman 🥲🥴

Yessss omggg 😵😵

Pros: aww sweet this person im seeing has alot of common interests 💕 Cons: bruhhhh I gotta put down my hobbies, favorite food and even stop going to certain places cause it was 'our' thing 🥲🥴 Welp... seeya at the gym

Hahahaha THIS 👏👏👏

Ohhh heyyyy almost forgot the ultimate 'insult to injury' ..... I met her at my gym 🙃🙃 'Don't be petty now....' - gym partner Nahhhh my inner Aries is gonna come alive 💯🦍🤣

I personally find it hard at first but I then remember as immature as this may sound "loved this first" so the memories come and go but I always remind myself "hey she wasn't for you and that's okay but I doubt she's letting your absence ruin her favorite things, don't let her win, remember you love this place, thing, activity first don't let a temporary set back ruin your joy, one day you'll find someone great"

Ma guy.... I needed to hear this 🙌, time to go back and buy some more books 💯 on gawd 📚 Dude thank you!!!

I'm here all week lol hey no problem dude, we all gotta look out for each other :)

So...love me some me? Got it 👍

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I agree 👍

Heyy new here let's be friends!

Sure! 🥰🥰

That's going to be hard 😩

You will get there 💓

Loving others is easier 🤣

So true but if it wasn't hard to love yourself it wouldn't be worth it. The journey is the important part. It's like that point half way up the mountain when you look back and see how far you've come. Then look forward and carry on knowing you can make it.

I'm definitely loving on myself in every way possible. Guys have got some stiff competition now...🥴😆😆

Ehh, I dont know. Do I have to? I've been with myself for 27 years 😂

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Love yourself first and eventually you'll find someone who loves you for you! And if you love yourself, you'll feel even more secure in your future relationships. Its a win/win

Currently dealing with a bad break up 😔 I was abused mentally and emotionally... My feelings were played with sadly. And a toxic family was heavily involved

I'm sorry 🥺 I hope you're able to recover and build yourself back to wanting to try and find love again because you deserve it ❤

Wow congrats on this blowing up 👏👏👏 Not sure I personally agree but I also recognize the difference in my thinking to most on this 🤣 Still working on loving myself though! True work in progress lol

Easier said than done

For sure

this is not just a #randomthought, this is facts

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