Question of the Day

12 days ago

What's your love language?

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Touch. Any kind of touch.

Maybe not ANY touch but physical touch is nice. Keep your metaphysical hands off me though.

I gotta touch your soul though 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺

Holding hands and cuddles

Maybe I can help you then

Agree 100% Love to be cuddled and cuddle.

Yes agreed

Same

I feel you

Exactly. It calms my soul

I've been deprived of that sort of interaction whole life- yet it's my love language. Ironic

Metaphysical Stranger danger. (I would owl screech so loud!)

My fists? How about a toe to the cheek?

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Hahaha

I need touch as well

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*metaphysically pokes*

Yo what's a soul 🤔🤣

Quality time touch and acts of service if I were to guess

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Quality time, particularly in the form of sustained, meaningful interaction 💁🏻‍♀️

Could also be as simple as being there in the room, doing different things...🤣

Exactly! You get it :)

Yes to this.

Roasting each other

So, I'm glad you brought that up, because this is a cultural thing I just don't understand. How can insulting someone - finding flaws in their character or appearance - and then insult them about be express love? To me that expresses distain and disgust for the person. Now, I distinguish that from the more general insult throwing. When the insults aren't specific to a flaw or a person, I understand that people show love that way. It still seems odd, but because they don't "draw blood", I can get it. But roasting someone, as I understand it, is designed to "draw blood." Can you maybe help me better understand this concept?

It's a way to tear down each others minor insecurities by showing your SO how ridicule and often not needed those insecurities can be... me and my past partners or friends do it often. It builds character over time and helps yourself get secure, because those same people are always there for you and show you how ridicule and useless insecurities are.

Depend on the partner. If u have a partner with a sense of humour and who enjoys a laugh then they will take it easy and fun

It's the banter. If done right it's more like schoolyard teasing. And it can fun and loving tbh. But its not generational. It's just a relationship dynamic

So, I wasn't a fan of schoolyard teasing. I was called all sorts of things on the schoolyard, and I didn't think any of it was fun or loving. Maybe because I had few friends, so I couldn't distinguish a statement of contempt vice a "tease." And often those people did not choose to remain my friend afterwards. I guess it's just a dynamic I missed learning about on the playground. Thanks .... still hard for me to grasp, but I think this helps.

So, I think I have a sense of humour and enjoy a laugh . .. but that hasn't translated to "take it easy and fun." There are times I need friends to call me on the carpet for my behaviour, and I appreciate the rebuke. But that's not "easy and fun." So I feel I'm still missing something here. But thanks for trying .... I do appreciate it!

So, let's say I have a minor insecurity over my weight, because my doctor keeps harping on it, and there is a possibility that I could develop NAFLD. So, if I had a friend try to tear down my insecurities about my health and appearance, I don't think I would feel like I shouldn't be insecure on those things. Ususally sarcasm and biting remarks are based in truth. And if I don't get my weight under control, it could kill me. Not to mention, no one wants to see me with my shirt off. 😱 So, in that case, how could someone express that I shouldn't be insecure about my weight and appearance? (Especially as it does affect job performance.) Could you unpack how that would work?

God damn that's poetry

Personally, I am also of the belief that light roasting can be fun and jokes but you need to know your limit. People's feelings can get hurt and they don't show it. Some insecurities may not seem like insecurities on the outside and they might shrug it off but deep down they could care and be hurting. People who understand you enough and are approved the roasting 'pass' from you can roast no problem, but if you don't have a roast 'pass', I suggest you keep your awareness up. Doesn't hurt to be more careful of your own words. Not targeted at you, just general opinion on roasting. 🙂

Oh dont worry I am aware with my loved ones and learn before hand what is okay to be said and not. I am considering all possibilities. Usually, I am confident enough in my partnerships to know what is okay and what is not. Ty for your concern tho 😊

Just depends on your sense of humor really. If you both know its a joke then you can laugh about it. When it comes from me I'm usually making fun of something i love about her.

This right here 👏