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Derek
7 days ago
What is it you look for in a man when starting off having a conversation? I feel like I'm good at starting I just don't understand why it always drops off. I'm always nice I just don't understand maybe I'm too boring.
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⭐Mayumi⭐
7 days ago
Speaking for myself: I just like natural, laidback conversation with friendly demeanor. I can't say the same for other people because a lot of people don't appreciate that.
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Derek
7 days ago
I'm always friendly and nice I start out asking how they are I just try to get to know the person alittle first. But I don't know why always they drop out of the convo
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Amelia
7 days ago
4w5
4Easy-going/laid back, open mind, humorous and fun loving, but most importantly, a willingness to be vulnerable and authetic. Be honest, speak your truth! He should be unashamed of his human nature, and thus be able to easily hold a conversation, even if there are lulls of silence. Silence can be a good thing, and he should be able to relax during those moments without being afraid he's making it awkward by having nothing to say.
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Derek
7 days ago
I'm always the one to hold the convo and be able to spark something up but it's like they are interested to talk at first then they just get bored and I don't know..... like I'm not no entertainer in a circus I just try to be myself Bice, genuine, and always willing to learn about them or I like to also tell about myself
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QueenOfSwords
7 days ago
I loathe icebreaker starters...they make me feel like I'm at a job interview...
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Derek
7 days ago
I have done that before but sometimes it works sometimes other just hate feeling like at an interview haha
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Tyler
7 days ago
5w6
5I ain’t a woman but I’ll offer some advice. Just be yourself (which I know is cliche) but don’t expect a miracle on your first conversation. Things take time and you want to avoid looking over eager. Also it takes practice, really dissect your conversation. Don’t overthink but analyze things outside of speech. Nonverbal communication is also a big indicator. Really just try different things and you’ll see in no time that every bit helps/counts
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Derek
7 days ago
That's true it's just I like calling I'm better in person or on phone u can really see my personality but thought texting is harder and I don't excel but it's hard for me I guess because they seem to hurt always drop off even when I'm always able to keep it going
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Tyler
7 days ago
5w6
5Hmmmm that’s quite the predicament. I’d say just practice talking with people and learn how to better get a feel of why someone acts or does the way they do. Step back and Observe. Communication will always be better when you can see face to face
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Derek
7 days ago
Ya that's true I don't know I just feel like women want u to entertain them but at the same time it's like I don't ask them to give entertainment but it's like if they not laughing it's boring like.... I'm just getting to know u...
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Tyler
6 days ago
5w6
5The mind games are confusing. I totally get that. Just keep talking my dood and keep trying
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Lauren
7 days ago
2w1
2Is this a question about the first message? Or just the general beginning of a conversation?
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Derek
7 days ago
Just the conversation I have the beginning but always lose it in after that I don't get it I think I'm just too boring
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Silvia
6 days ago
I don't know, I mean, I have found some dudes that are a bit hard to talk to, as if, they aren't interested on continuing the conversation, and it gets tiring to keep up. Unrelated: your beard is on point.
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Stephanie
5 days ago
Definitely more than "how are you?" "What are you up to?" Those are super basic and boring. Start talking about more meaningful things
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Stephanie
1 day ago
I cant seem to keep a connection for long, especially romantic. I don't even know what I said wrong most of the time, but when I like a guy, I ruin it within 2 days. If I'm lucky, a month. Im an old maid now.
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Morgan
1 day ago
5w6
5Has anyone met someone on this app dating wise and how would you compare this app to let's say Tinder or any of the others?
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Tempest
1 day ago
3w4
3Hearing about people getting ghosted. It literally happens to everyone. Guys and girls. They didnt feel the connection and left. It's ok. You thought there was more than there was. Well it wasnt the case and that's ok. Yes ghosting is annoying and hurtful but when every other post is someone whining about it. I'm sorry it gets old. We are adults take the rejection and move onto someone who is going to value your time. I value people who are upfront but not everyone feels comfortable saying hey this isnt working out. I've been verbally attacked when I did this. Yet I still tell the person I'm talking to why I'm backing out.
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Lexi
1 day ago
I'll go first: people who chew or breath loudly
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☀🌿 𝘓𝘶𝘤𝘢𝘴 🌿☀
2 hours ago
1w9
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Ben
1 day ago
4w5
4I am curious. Do you prefer a partner to lift too or what is it that you look for?
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Carrie Stoltz
1 day ago
7w8
7I've been single for 3yrs & in that time I've been on 4 dates. Every single person I know has been in at least 2 or more "relationships" in that time & here I am stuck on 1st base 🤣 I don't mind being single but I'm really starting to wonder if something is legit wrong with me?
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Roman
1 day ago
In order to meet someone you looking for and for sustainable period of time, you need to narrow down all of your choices and immediately delete your profile as soon as you got into relationship. Remember, more choices just make your life harder , specifically if you are attractive! You going to be spoiled really fast from attention, loose the time and a hope to find someone special...
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Chris
2 hours ago
I seem to hit a wall with my conversational retention almost immediately. Am I boring or just too open?
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Elijah
1 day ago
Want to go on a date with me :)
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Dan
10 hours ago
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Brooklyn
1 day ago
Last night I posted about hating when people 'switch up' their attitude towards others without expressing why or that they did it in the first place. Today, however, I'd like to post about being the one on the recieving end of that and being able to be OKAY with it. A person will ONLY treat you how you ALLOW them to...by that I mean if a person switches up on you and you are too accepting, etc. they will believe that their wishee washee behavior is ok ****(The rest of this post)-- it is and should NOT be ok. Allowing someone to even try manipulating your emotions/behavior is toxic and irresponsible so cut them off if that's what's going on, no one should have time for those games when there's much more going on more important.
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Audrey
1 day ago
4w5
4Is the education your partner has, important to you? Does their education affect you or how you view them? I've dated people from not finishing high School to Masters level. I went to community college, and I'm currently in University, and I hope to get my masters. I have found some times that people who have a certain kind of education, have a certain mentality. But, it's not always the case. I recently dated someone who is an engineer, and while he has a high class professional career, he's ambitionless, strives to do the least amount of work, and isn't very high-minded at all. Yet, one of my best friends only has high school, and he has a university level brain in the social sciences and humanities, which makes his character quite outstanding, even though he doesn't have a lot of ambition either. For the most part I would like to date someone who has a master's or PhD, because most cis men cannot handle the level of intellect that I have. I do not want to dumb down around people. I'm quite early, but if I get into conversation but something I know, I'm not going to pretend I don't know anything. I will only do that in casual social settings, and with people I hardly know and maybe don't want to know. But my intimate partner must adore my intellectual quality and interesting insights. But, if somebody doesn't even have grade school, and I can see clearly that they are very bright individual, and they believe I'm bright too, I would date them, but I would not continue a relationship with them, unless they pursued higher learning. Because, that lack of ambition is not attractive to me. I need a helpmate, and someone who wants to elevate in this world, and a university or a humanities or social science community college education helps a person finish themselves, as a human being. It exposes a person to different ideas and ways of looking at things. I am late to the University game, but I can see how my whole being has been transformed by this experience. Not only on an educational level, but also on a character level.
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Alexis
1 day ago
Looking for a lovely lady to date! Let's see if anyone close wants to be more than friends ^^
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Jerika
1 day ago
5w6
5Looking for either a woman, enby, or transman for either a serious or casual relationship. We can go at your pace. I am married and we are polyamrous. These are separate relationships. It'd be best if you meet my spouse, but no need to engage otherwise. I wanna talk. Get to know you, go do some stuff lol a movie or whatever idk what people do for dates these days. Please read my bio it would be very helpful to me. And I'll read your whole profile as well. That's why they're there after all 😉 (Any pronouns)
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☀🌿 𝘓𝘶𝘤𝘢𝘴 🌿☀
2 hours ago
1w9
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Dealan
1 day ago
If I were to offer an 8 ball pool date, how would that go?
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Tyler
1 day ago
1w9
1Looking for anyone who is interested in a virtual relationship for now which may lead to an in person relationship
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Ben
1 day ago
4w5
4I am curious. Do you prefer a partner to lift too or what is it that you look for?
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