Need bit of advice (bit ranty)

So there was this cute and attractive guy that I really liked from another app. We first exchanged numbers and really hit it off in text. First date went really well and had some business again back at downtown and he figured why not go on second date, I went on next day to his house. He made some moves on me and things went well again. But now his text were just simple responses and not much in depth. I did ask question him why and he said he busy lately. That reassure me bit bc I know he explained what was he busy doing stuff but wish it actually sounded like he still had interest me. It quite tiring just to make conversations just to get back simple answers or questions that I wish were bit more meaningful. Chasing people is not my thing because can end up tring mess. So should just continue just waiting and just give him time for him to be free or maybe prehaps just try to look for other people to talk to in the meantime. Maybe I just like him more than he actually like me. I just don't wanna feel like I'm used or time is actually wasted in the end. I will yeet this post later as well.

I believe if someone is really interested in you. They will put effort despite being busy.. even if it's one text a day..but atleast the text should carry depth or show that they still care about you and all If you are having doubts and you said you wish it sounded like he still has interest in you I think you should keep a distance..or don't put y'all into it because you might end up draining yourself..you can't keep put 70% and he keeps 30% effort Otherwise to avoiding rushing..give him time .maybe a week or so if he continues just let him go.

It's simple , chats were intriguing at start ,if they don't continue after it's just lost interest in my opinion might be wrong ,but I know I'm not

If he really is busy, give him a little space. Maybe send a message or two saying hi or good morning, and wishing him a good day. If he keeps being distant after that, I'd say time to move on.

if he continues this consistently drop him

We can be busy but we should be able to make up for it when we have time especially when we're really interested in somebody. It's apparent that there has been a change in the energy he's giving you. Give him the same energy. Reciprocate only the same effort he is giving. Personally, I wouldn't settle for someone who's only giving me crumbs of his time and energy. Look for other people, girl. You deserve better.

Communication can be a hell of a drug, and sometimes people crash. It doesn't mean that the experience wasn't sincere or meaningful, and it doesn't mean it can't be resumed or re-initiated. Also, the flip side is that when we're getting to know somebody, and often times even after that, our own neuroses abstract that person in our head in a somewhat unhelpful manner. The shadow of that person flickering in the light on the back cave wall of our mind is just that, an abstraction. More often than not, that other person also has an abstracted version if you in their own mind. The closer these images are to the actual person the better the communication. I know, especially at the beginning of a relationship some people don't appreciate that type of direct communication, but it does need to happen at some point. If only; so you are both talking to, and not at, each other.

Perhaps he is not a chaser and prefer to be chased instead

gurl i literally just went through this lol but seriously you deserve effort and consistency, don't settle for less ❤︎

This is why i was still talking to people on dating apps even if i had a nice few dates with someone. People who make you chase them are L A M E. make him do some work to get your attention if hes gonna be like that. Aint nothing wrong with talking to other people.

I personally can't stand texts. I know, it would make me not very apt to online dating but it is what it is. If it feels like less sparks in person and it is just going through motions to do so, that might be your smoking gun on identifying it appropriately.

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Hmmm well love my best advice is continue text but also engage in other people too... you aren't locked into him and truth be told if he wants to be placed in the pole position then yes he must act accordingly...it's hard to speculate what aversion may be going through and so to cut him off immediately due to minimal responses would be rash and premature in my book. Send him a text each week while opening yourself to other people... the next guy you meet might be a better communicator but it looks like you really like this guy so don't quite close the door there just be open to other people

50% of men/women will lead you on more then you think, then when he/she gets you in there trap she'll/he'll make you feel loved and wanted, after he/she completes that then his/her second stage is were he'll/she'll push himself/herself on you while your thinking it's alright then you both proceed, after you both have sex with each other the first time then he/she will find it boring then they'll find someone new and pretty much repeat the same concept with the next person... it's basically called manipulation?!